QUEEN OF WANDS – love

The Queen of Wands in love is all about attraction – but not the kind that's advertised.

The Queen isn't attractive because she meets some expectation. She is attractive because she is herself. She is fully present with all her heart, she doesn't play a role, and she doesn't apologize for who she is.

This is the most important and most difficult lesson of love. Most of us try to be loved by hiding what we don't like about ourselves. And then we wonder why we don't feel truly loved – because it's not even us they're loving.

The cat at her feet: the shadow, accepted. The Queen tells us that it's okay to show that too.

If you are single, this card isn't asking you to change. It's asking you to be more fully who you are.

If you are in a relationship, bring warmth and fire. The Queen is both tender and passionate.

Her shadow: the need to conform.

The angels send this message: do not mold yourself for anyone.

Attraction doesn't come from conforming. It comes from being someone. Many people don't find a partner because they show a version of themselves that they don't even like – and then they wonder why it's exhausting to maintain.

Trust in your own light. You don't have to be perfect to be loved. In fact: perfection keeps people at a distance. People are not attracted to the flawless, but to the real.

If you are in a relationship, allow yourself to be seen whole. Even the parts of you that are difficult. Relationships don't deepen by always presenting our best selves, but by reaching a point where we no longer have to pretend anything.

And look at your jealousy, if you have any. On the card, the queen places the black cat in front of her – representing passion, possession, the fear of losing. You don't have to conquer it. Just admit to yourself that it's there. What we know controls us much less.

If you are single: be the woman or man who is comfortable with themselves. This is not a trick – it is simply the most attractive state that exists.

If the card appears in a reversed position: if your self-confidence has been shaken, if jealousy consumes you, or if for years you have diminished yourself in your relationship – start with a single sentence. This week, say once what you desire, without apology.