KING OF SWORDS – love

In love, the King of Swords is the card of decision – not of feeling.

This doesn't mean there's no love in it. It means that love alone won't be enough. You've been turning this question over for a while, you've asked everyone, you've slept on it a lot – and you're exactly where you were a month ago. There's no more information to help you.

This card is the card of the given word. For him, a word is a word: what he says, stands. Therefore, if you are in a relationship, you are not being asked for more tenderness now, but for a clear agreement. What you commit to, what you don't, and for how long. "We'll see" is the cruelest thing you can do to the other person.

But here is the shadow of the card, and this is more important.

You are very good at arguing. Too good. And cool logic is the most elegant escape from pain – he who can explain everything doesn't have to experience anything. When your partner feels something and you argue it away as illogical, you are not right. You've just won.

Look at his sword. It's not perfectly straight – it's tilted a bit. Even the most righteous person leans towards what they want.

The question is not who is right. It's what you truly want.

Today you don't need to feel. Today you need to decide.

I know this sounds strange coming from a love message. But this card didn't come to coddle you, and you didn't pull it to be comforted.

You've turned this over enough. You've asked your friend, you've asked yourself a thousand times, you've slept on it for seventy nights. And you're exactly where you started. There's no more information that will help. This situation isn't unresolved because you don't know enough – but because making a decision involves something you don't want to undertake.

Look at the card. It's facing you. And notice its sword: it's not perfectly straight, it leans a little.

This is your message. Even the most just person leans towards what they desire. This isn't weakness – this is the beginning of wisdom.

Tonight, sit down. With paper, not in your head, because in your head it will just go in circles. Two columns, honestly. Then ask the question you've been avoiding: which column does my hand lean towards? Not which one is longer. Which one do I lean towards.

Because you already know. You just wanted the list to decide for you.

And be careful about one thing. You're very good at arguing. If your partner feels something, and you prove to them that it's not logical, that doesn't make you right. You just won. And next time, they won't speak up.

Decide, and stand by it. Then tell them. Not what you think. What you commit to.

In reverse position: your truth has become more important than the person. Today, don't explain a single sentence. Just listen.